New York City Dating in the 21st Century

Friday, 03 October 2008

  • [3] Ding

    Speed Dating. I went to a young professional network meeting to meet some new people and hopefully come up with a new job. It turns out I'm a week late. I guess I'm not very professional in keeping appointments. While I was standing at the bar killing time, my friend comes up to me and tells me that they need more people for this speed dating event. Amazingly there's usually more girls than there are guys for these occasions and it seems to be a common theme. I think it is because guys have too much pride for these types of events. I'm not proud to say but, I've done speed dating 2 times before just for kicks and this time would be no different. The only catch was that I had to be someone else - Sam P1. P1, cause there was someone with the same name of Sam P. there weirddd. Usually I mess around and say my profession is a sex ed teacher, astronaut, brain surgeon, etc. Funny thing is, lying about my name made me the most uncomfortable. What made it worse was the fact that a lot of the women that were there were VERY attractive. I would actually love to know these girls, better but...

    1. They think I'm Sam P. one
    2. I'll never get the results to see if we clicked
    3. Introducing myself beginning with lying didn't help one bit.

    Going along the line, it seemed that all the women worked in the finance field, while two others were a teacher & the other in fashion. Now I've got a real soft spot for teachers, and I was totally kicking myself for agreeing to fake it. They all seemed interesting, but for some I just kept fumbling my questions. Recycling thru; What do you do? Where did you grow up? Where'd you go to school? All boring shit. Maybe I just lost my skill with this interacting game. Now that I think about it I should be practicing my routines on these women before I actually try it out in the field.

    Overall, some conversations were better than others. The girls last night were nice pretty girls that you won't meet in the bar / club scene and probably a good catch. I would say, speed dating is great for people looking to meet for fun / serious relationships, people who are extremely shy with approaching others, and women who don't want to pay for dinner for a few days out of the week. I always tell people that you've gotta try everything at least once, and this should be no exception.

Thursday, 02 October 2008

  • [2] Background

    Things have been going up and down with my dating life. Right now I'm in a rut and hopefully this will roll things in a different direction.

    Now one of my favorite questions to ask women is, what's considered more serious? Dating or Seeing? The great thing about this question is that it can wander in different directions. Myself, I see dating as less serious than seeing. When you're seeing someone you're seeing them exclusively and no one else. Dating can go any which way, dinner could be a date or it can just be dinner. There unfortunately isn't a deciding factor that can contribute to which is more important. As of this writing I'm neither, I'm not dating anyone, I'm not seeing anyone although we will see the personal tear between making that decision.

    Since starting this blog, I'm thinking of keeping the actual names of the people or I should change it. I might do alittle in between, some will be real some will be made up. I guess it will depend on you guys, the readers to make that decision.

    First up is Janice, I met Janice through a friend of a friend. Now I'm not interested in pursuing a relationship with her it's just that I've been somewhat on a dry spell with new prospects and am looking for something fun to poke on. She's attractive, but doesn't really float my boat. Her affiliation with a close friend could jeopardized my goals. I've been told that she is attracted to yours truly, which breaks down a lot of walls I've become so use to jumping over. We were scheduled to see each other last friday, but due to circumstances unknown, we had to push it all the way back to this Friday, with her crashing at my house for a place to stay. Where will things lead? Well I guess we'll see on Monday eh?

    Next up Heidi, I met Heidi though the final class I was taking in college. Heidi has a great personality, open minded and intelligent. She's older than me by I believe a year or two, now I love cougars older women they know how to treat a guy, act properly, great in bed, and play less games that younger women seem to love. She's been really open to me and have called me out on multiple occasions, for drinks, dinner, whatever. I can't tell if she's looking for fun or something more serious. From the interaction between her sister, she seems like fair game to have some fun. Missed her birthday celebration, which I totally apologized for and will take her out to dinner, just us.

    Adrianna, another cougar I met actually, though speed dating. Now I usually don't go to these things cause they are rather embarrassing to say that you've actually went speed dating but hell you only live once right? When I was running some game on her, the beginning was actually pretty smooth in getting the date. Which I've got to play more that role when it comes to women and life in general. Anyway I'm straying off the subject here, she was the cutest among the whole group that I spoke with. We went on two dates, one to a nice restaurant, and another to watch a movie. I was attracted to her, but I got tired of doing all the leg work. What I mean by that is I'm all for chasing a woman, but I can only go so far before I sacrifice my dignity. Now it seemed like I was always doing the calling, the messaging and pretty much revolving around her schedule. To put it plainly I'm tired of that shit. I'll give a lot to get a little, but when I give and don't receive anything back. I'll just walk.

Wednesday, 01 October 2008

  • [1] Start

    I'm going to start a new blog. This is going to mostly be about what I can't reveal to my public audience on my other blog. Plain and simple, its going to be about women, the ones I date, the ones I'm interested in, potential reltaionships, no holds bars blogging. I have a hard paper journal already and keeping ANOTHER electronic one will be pretty tough but we'll see how things go.

    I already have an existing Xanga, but like many of us, some posts should not be seen by certain crowds.

    An Asian Male Born 1981 and Raised in NYC.

    This is my dating blog.

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