Ahh Facebook. Just like the many social connecting websites that come along, from the popular Friendster, Myspace to the lesser known Asian Avenue, everyone is trying to find some way to connect with other people. Finding friends should be pretty easy in this day & age. There are winks and smiles you can give to people anonymously. Facebook has something called poking, now i won't get into the phallic nature of the word but it's an interesting way to view someone else's profile for a short duration of time.
Someone decided to poke me a few weeks ago and although I felt slightly violated I got curious. I sent the poker and message asking if I knew them, and of course I didn't. 8 times out of 10 they usually don't, which is fine. she replied in a day and since i'm horrible with keeping up with friends I decided that I would reply to every message she would send and for about 3 weeks we kept sending messages to each other. I wouldn't reply over the weekend cause I felt like this was more of a thing to do at work. Her name was Amy and from the looks of it, she seemed like a normal person to talk to. I've been flirty here and there without saying anything too serious.
I finally decided to schedule a drink with her yesterday, unfortunately for her schedule for work, she gets out at 8. I'm done in Manhattan by 5, so I had to sit around the office for about 2 and a half hours waiting for this chick to get out. It was freezing last night and when she rang, I started to talk uptown towards Bryant Park. I started to get sentimental and somewhat nervous. It was weird, I haven't gone on a date in nearly a few weeks and it felt so foreign to me. Back when I was scheduling dates two or three times a week it was never a big deal, its just dinner, like I always say. Maybe it was that we've never met in person, it felt like high school AOL dating.
We met up and she looked pretty close to what her pictures on her Facebook depicted so it wasn't a big surprise or anything. We went to a nice burger place and had just a normal conversation. I previously wanted to reread our dialog with the messages we've been sending back & forth but didn't get to. It didn't really matter because, I remember most of our dialog, it was good that I didn't ask any questions that I already knew.
There wasn't anything special from our interaction but it was great that the conversation didn't die out. I think I'm a little too blunt with what I said to her, although I feel like I should be free to say whatever I want. What turned her off to me was the fact that I was a pretty heavy drinker, I smoked herb excessively and I quote, "I was the kind of person your mom warned you about" Only to show that I wasn't looking for a girlfriend, only some fun. We pretty much just met up for us to realize that not compatible at this point in our lives. I believe we aren't compatible mainly cause she's way too good/different for me. She doesn't drink very often which is a good & bad thing and she was very clear about looking for someone to get hitched with. I agreed with her and said, yeah I don't' believe I'll have a girlfriend until I'm pretty sure I can see myself with a future with them. The rest of the night was just basic conversation.
After our dinner, we walked over to the train and took it back together, separating at Queens Plaza hugging goodbye. Overall, she was a great girl, innocent, smart, funny, not bad on the eyes. The funny thing is, she's not what I'm looking for at this point in my life. I'll try to keep in contact, but mostly to see what her friends are like.
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